Why choose me?

Because I know what adoptees live with; that unexplainable feeling deep inside something is missing and the need to fill that hole however you can.

I have felt the heart pain that the detachment and abandonment trauma brings despite growing up in a loving and safe family home.

I know there are all other kinds of self destructive behaviour patterns and trauma responses, and that triggers exist everywhere.

I understand that being adopted will impact on how you live your life and form relationships.

Because I know that only another adoptee will understand.

I lived my most of my adult life self sabotaging, people pleasing and accepting bad behaviour quite often in toxic abusive relationships. Thing is, I thought that this was just how it was, but once I understood these were trauma related patterns I set about repairing the damage.

Freeing myself from these negative and destructive behaviour patterns meant I uncovered the Joyful, well balanced, peaceful and authentic me.

Every day I am grateful for those that without judgement held space for me through the very difficult process of letting go of and grieving for everything that I thought had always kept me safe.

Solitude is not the absence of company, but the moment when our soul is free to speak to us and help us decide what to do with our life.

~ Paulo Coelho